How to Calm the Hell Down Without Spending a Fortune.

How to Calm the Hell Down Without Spending a Fortune.

 

Who has the money to calm down these days? 

Well, no one really thinks they do. 

Most people are paying off some sort of loan or loans or working just to pay their bills. Many do not have extra cash to do something as luxurious as to be calm, or so they think.

Here’s the thing, though.

You don’t need money to be calm.

You really don’t.

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Brain Space

What you need is brain space.

So, what is brain space?

Brain space is space in your brain that allows you to feel a sense of calm.

We spend our lives walking around with all these thoughts in our heads: 

gotta pay off this bill
have to make dinner
must finish this project
need new tires for the car
must buy dog food

…and on and on these thoughts keep going rattling around inside our brains.

You can’t be calm unless your mind is calm.

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You could go to the most beautiful beach in the world, sit in the sand, and stare at the ocean, but if you haven’t learned how to calm your mind, you might as well be sitting in your living room staring at the TV because you are going to still feel all the stress you brought with you to the beach.

You can run 10 miles a day, and while you are running, maybe your brain settles down as you fight to breathe and keep your heart going, which, of course, takes precedence over any stressful thoughts. Once you stop running, though, that stress seeps right back.

Are you super forgetful?

Chances are your brain is too cluttered, leaving little room for you to remember.

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Cluttered Room

Think of your brain as if it were a favorite room in your house. When you aren’t calm, there are clothes, and newspapers, and old bags of empty (except for a few shriveled up french fries) fast food wrappers. 

How can you find anything in such a mess? 

You know you left your car keys somewhere in that room, but darned if you can find them with all those piles of junk. Maybe the keys are under the empty Krispy Kreme box that rattles with pieces of dried sugar? Maybe they are beneath the wet smelly towel that has been there since your lake trip three months ago? 

There’s so much garbage lying around that you just can’t find what you need.

You have to clear out your thoughts just as you have to clean-up that favorite room of yours.

But how?

It’s simple, really.

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Be Still

All you have to do is take 20 minutes, sit down, or lie down, and just be.

Just sit and be still for 20 minutes.

Don’t solve any big problems or think about your favorite song lyrics. Just sit still and breathe.

That’s all you’ve got to do.

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Nothing

Sit, breathe, and do nothing. Think of nothing.

As you sit there, breathing and doing nothing, make sure you acknowledge right now, right in these 20 minutes, you need nothing. 

You’re fine. 

You don’t need anything for the next 20 minutes. 

Keep breathing and acknowledge that you have nothing. Go ahead, say it to yourself. I have nothing.

You know what, when you have nothing, you have nothing to lose!

Now let’s take this one step farther. As you sit and breathe, say to yourself, I am nothing.

Now you might be thinking, Hold on there Laurie, I am a big muckety-muck in my community. I have all these people that rely on me.

Hmmmmm…could it be that having all those responsibilities are cluttering your mind?

So, let it go for 20 minutes.

For 20 minutes, all that doesn’t matter. 

Just let it go and be with nothingness.

Now, you might be thinking, That’s Impossible! I don’t have the time for anything as ridiculous as all this. Or, you might be thinking, I’m far too busy, or I’m far too important to do that.

Oh please.

You’re not.

Sitting still for 20 minutes will not bring ruin to your life.

What it will do is make room in your brain.

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Declutter

As you sit still and breathe, your brain begins to pick up the trash that’s lying around.

It tidies up. 

It quiets down all those nagging noises that prevent you from finding calm.

As your mind begins to work through all those thoughts and memories that are chaotically lying about, you begin to feel more like yourself.

You become that person you were before you knew there was such a thing as money. You embrace that person you were before you knew there was such a thing as pain or anxiety or loss. You realize that person you are seeing within yourself has been with you all along, but the clutter of your mind has kept her hidden.

When you sit for 20 minutes a day and breathe, you begin to see who you were born to be.

You begin to experience calm.

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Calm

Who wants to be calm?

Well, I’ll tell you who. You want to be calm because when you are calm you are able to do so much more. 

With a calm mind, you begin to see how you can easily finish those projects you started. With a calm mind, you begin to see how you can make your finances work for you and not against you. 

With a calm mind, you begin to see how you have control over who or what influences you.

With a calm mind, you have the ability to create a better life for the time that you have here on this earth.

You don’t need money to calm down.

All you need to do is sit quietly and breathe.

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